Sifting through emotions: A way towards a healthy outlook on a challenging situation
The way we feel dictates our attitude as we go in life.
It affects our wellbeing in the greatest way. If you take a few minutes to close your eyes and remember a time that you felt physically, professionally, and socially well, I assure you it will be a time when you were feeling emotionally well too. Our emotions are behind our cravings, our resistance to food, our doing, not doing, or overdoing exercise, the type of relationships we get into, and how we perform at work. Our emotions vary in intensity depending on the life situation we are in whether it is a fallout or a breakup in any type of relationship, an unhealthy work situation, or a trauma taking place within your circle. The emotions resulting from these circumstances can push you off the edge, and will affect each one of us differently. It results with some kind of coping mechanism like digital binging, total isolation and disintegration from society, overdoing social events, abusing substance, getting into unhealthy relationships, or overdoing exercise till you injure yourself. When our emotions are low, our judgement gets tampered, and therefore we can get into a series of unhealthy reactions. We need to manage the emotions that are stirred in an event so we can react in a healthy manner that will serve us positively, and ensure our wellbeing.
To manage emotions, you need first to be aware of them.
Being aware of your emotions when a dramatic situation erupts is important. It is also important to know that you cannot change what happened as it is now history, and therefore your only control over this situation is to manage how you react to it. Your reaction will be healthy only when you tone down the negative emotions that have been stirred with the situation, and see what can be done within your reach that can inflict this harm, instead of submerging in the negative situation and living the story over and over again with no solution mindset. Staying long in a negative environment, or feeling bad never served me right, and this negative feeling only disappeared when I am deliberate about managing the situation with whatever is within my reach. Most spiritual readings guide towards changing what is within your reach as the way to a progressive mindset over a vindictive or victimized approach because the former ensures your wellbeing, and ensures a supportive environment with everything and everyone rallying around you to help you in your situation. In my case owning and accepting an event/situation was always my first option because I always felt I have a choice and I am not stuck to the reactions or doings of others, but if my emotions are vulnerable or confused or vindictive it is impossible to have any control over what you can do to move on. Most of the people surrounding you from friends and family will advise you to fight the situation, let you talk about it over and over again which intensifies the feeling around it, and gets you to feel sorry for yourself, and this immobilizes any possibility of moving on and solving the problem that was inflicted upon you or life has imposed on you. The only way out of a situation and the damage it caused you is by being aware of how it is emotionally affecting you, and managing this emotional turmoil until it is no more a negative emotion; this helps clear your mind and gives you rigor to handle it.
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